You don't have to do it that way

A lot of us go through life doing what we think we are expected to do.  We fall into line.  But how often do we ask - 

Why am I doing this???


I ask that question a lot.  Especially around the holidays.  I read this quote yesterday - 

To me, ‘busy’ implies that the person is out of control of their life.
— Derek Silvers

I definitely feel a little out of control around the holidays.  And it's often because I'm allowing other people to add things to my schedule.

I want to say "yes" only to the things I can accept with open arms.

The things that bring joy.

I've been trying not to complain this month, but the complaints are bubbling up constantly.  I have to take the complaints as signals that maybe I should say "no" more often.  If you don't look at the early signals, you might explode.

I'm going to offend a lot of traditionalists by saying - 

You don't have to do it that way just because it's always been done. 

Maybe it is a good thing (the thing someone asks you to do) and maybe you need to come to terms with it.  Or maybe you need to go back and say "no".  Either way, ask - 

Why Why Why

Then, you can proceed with joy.